Giving myself grace

18 July 2024

You may have noticed that I haven’t been blogging. For the first time in 16 years of writing this blog, more than a month has passed since I last posted. I’m trying not to beat myself up about that. I did send out my monthly newsletter as usual on the 15th. In it, I explained a little about what’s going on with my life (which accounts for my lack of presence here) and how I’m trying to be kind to myself about it. I received a lovely response, so I thought I’d post it here as well.

My life has become more stressful than usual. Way more stressful. As a result, I’m dropping balls, forgetting to do things, and making mistakes big and small. It’s a constant reminder that I need to give myself grace.

We moved three weeks ago. We downsized from a 3200 square foot house to a 1700 square foot apartment. And of course, like anyone else, we took more stuff than we can comfortably store here so unpacking is not without challenges.

Two days after we moved my husband was hospitalized and will remain in the hospital for at least a few more weeks. We’re very hopeful for an excellent, life-changing outcome but in the meantime it’s definitely adding to the stress. (Silver lining: our new apartment is only a few blocks from the hospital so I can walk there on my daily visits.)

The one-two punch of the disruption of a move coupled with a family health crisis has meant that my brain is a bit scrambled and I’m just not functioning as well as usual. (Case in point: I put a light bulb in my pocket for some reason, then washed that garment. Broken glass in the washing machine is no fun.)

I’m trying so hard to give myself credit for what I am able to accomplish and forgive myself for the stuff that’s not getting done. The apartment is about 75% unpacked and functional (thanks to the help of professional organizers) and I absolutely love living here, which helps a lot. I’m proud that I’m getting this newsletter out and I’m forgiving myself for not having blogged in the past month.

I hope if you’re struggling at all that you’re giving yourself grace and showing yourself kindness. Taking breaks for stillness or just mindless relaxation is so important, especially when it feels impossible. You’ll get through this!

Tagged with: moving, self-care, self care