Peace of Mind Organizing

Do you have a motto?

11 August 2023

I have a personal motto that serves me well. I’ve talked about it here before (many times). Here it is:

Another helpful motto I have is “it’s good enough.” I have to remind myself of that all the time. Case in point: I was going to re-write my motto for this post because the lettering wasn’t amazing. But I reminded myself that good enough is good enough. And I let it be easy and stuck with my imperfect sticky note. (If the idea of letting go of perfectionism interests you, check out the podcast, Getting to Good Enough that I co-host with Shannon Wilkinson.)

What’s your motto? If you don’t have one, maybe today is a good day to come up with one!

Worth repeating: Why I love American Ninja Warrior

1 August 2023

Five years ago, I raved about my favorite summer TV show, the reality competition show American Ninja Warrior. I stumbled upon that post today and decided to re-run it because I still love this show for all the same reasons. I mentioned in the post that I watched it with my dad. He died 11 months ago, so watching it this year is bittersweet. A few little things have changed in the last five years, most importantly that I now have to watch it on Peacock, rather than Hulu. But it remains my favorite summer show.

My favorite summer TV series is NBC’s American Ninja Warrior. It’s the only show I watch live, because I can’t stand to wait until the next day to watch online. I watch it with my 87-year-old father when I’m visiting him and when I’m not there, we talk about it the next day over the phone.

In case you’re not familiar with it, American Ninja Warrior is a competition show, in which men and women race against the clock on ridiculously difficult obstacle courses. There are qualifying contests in a variety of cities. The top competitors in each city qualifier advance to the city final. The top competitors of the city final advance to the national competition in Las Vegas, which has up to four stages. The competitor who makes it fastest through the fourth stage wins a million dollars. So far, in nine seasons (the current season is the tenth), only two competitors made it to Stage Four (they were both in the same year), so only one has won the grand prize. This is crazy difficult.

People are sometimes surprised when I talk enthusiastically about the show. After all, it’s not exactly the epitome of sophistication. It’s noisy and has lots of flashing lights and yelling people and loud commentators. But it is so enjoyable and inspirational.

Here are some of the reasons I love it:

• Men and women compete on an equal playing field. That’s right, all competitors run the exact same course. The only advantage women are given is that the top five will advance to the city finals, even if they’re not in the top 30, and the top two will advance from the city finals to Las Vegas, even if they’re not in the top 15. That’s it. These women are unbelievable. Watch Allyssa Beird (a fifth-grade teacher!) finish Stage One in national final in Las Vegas last year:

• Old and young compete on the same course. This year they dropped the minimum age to 19 (from 21). There is no maximum age. One of my favorite competitors is Jon Stewart, who is my age. This year, at the age of 56, he finished the Dallas qualifiers, breaking his own record as the oldest person to finish a city qualifier. How can you not shout, “Go, Jon!” while you’re watching?

And here’s the youngest woman ever to hit to hit a buzzer, 20-year-old Casey Rothschild, a college student, at the Philadelphia qualifier, also this year.

• The competitors all support one another. It’s really wonderful to watch the competitors don each others’ fan t-shirts and cheer each other on. Great sportsmanship is always on display. In the video above, you can see Allyssa’s fellow women Ninjas going crazy for her. One of her closest competitors, who had failed that course, is shown crying with joy.

• They have such good attitudes when they fail. They almost always smile after falling and usually the comment is, “That was so much fun!” Even when the Ninja superstars (who are always expected to finish) fail, they just shrug and say some form of, “It happens to the best of us.” Witness superstar Drew Dreschel’s reaction after his embarrassing fall on the second obstacle in the 2014 Miami final.

• They showcase amazing come-back stories. Recently, there was an amputee who competed with prosthetic legs. There was a previous competitor who, between seasons, had been electrocuted and nearly died. There are always cancer survivors and people who have overcome all sorts of adversity. Again, inspirational.

Watching American Ninja Warrior is a wholesome, positive experience. It’s enthralling, inspirational, and a highlight of my summer each year. While ANW is a summer phenomenon, there are specials and variations you can see at other time of the year, I also love American Ninja Warrior: Ninja vs Ninja on the USA Network, which has teams of three ninjas, competing head to head, tournament style. Those courses are shorter because they’re all about speed. There is always at least one woman on a three-person team. So fun. There are also all-star competitions, international team competition, and even a celebrity edition (for Red Nose Day).

You can watch American Ninja Warrior live on NBC on Monday nights at 8/7 central or on the NBC website and on Hulu Peacock. (You can also watch the inspiring kids’ version, American Ninja Warrior Junior on Peacock TV.) You can see clips on You Tube. You can watch seasons on Amazon Prime at no additional charge or purchase the last two seasons on Amazon video.

Australia packing update

24 July 2023

Before I left on my trip to Australia, I blogged about how I was able to pack everything in just a carry-on. I’m back from my trip and thought I’d give you an update on how that worked out.

As always seems to be the case, I brought more clothes than I wore. I had brought three dresses, as well as a cardigan, joggers, leggings and a sweatshirt. I didn’t wear one of the dresses at all and another dress I wore one evening only (and could have easily done without it). What ended up happening was that while I was packing my St. Louis summer self had difficulty envisioning what my Australia winter self would feel like. It felt colder than the temperatures led me to believe it would and I forgot that my family doesn’t really use heat inside the house. So I was cold most of the time. And that meant I wore the joggers, sweatshirt, a heavy cardigan, leggings and the heavier dress (along with a wool/cashmere shawl and a wool scarf) the whole trip. Sometimes I wore all those pieces at the same time!

See for yourself:

Here I am with my brother, Larry, wearing pretty much all the clothes I brought.

In hindsight, there are some things I would do differently. I had brought only a short-sleeved wool t-shirt and I wish I’d brought a long-sleeved one. And a turtleneck would have been smart too. I had brought knee-high boots to wear at the outdoor wedding party and they took up so much space that I wish I’d brought short booties instead. (That said, they helped keep my legs warm.) And I brought more jewelry than I wore.

I wish I had packed an electrical converter and my hairdryer because I didn’t have access to one while I was with family. (My family members don’t use hair dryers!) That meant I completely let go of the idea that my hair might look good, which actually brought lots of freedom. I embraced being a middle-aged woman in comfy clothes and no makeup.

I will say that traveling in merino wool Aspen joggers and Aspen crewneck sweatshirt from wool& was a great choice. I was comfy cozy on the 14-hour flights over the Pacific. I also took my doctor’s advice and wore Sockwell compression socks on the flights and they were quite comfortable.

My next trip I want to minimize what I pack AND wear everything I bring. I’ll consider if a personal achievement if I accomplish that!

Traveling to Australia with just a carry on

10 July 2023

I’m on my way to Australia to visit family and participate in my niece and her new husband’s wedding celebration. Lucky me! I’ll be gone ten days, though of two of them will be spent in the air. I’m going to Brisbane and the Sunshine Coast, which are temperate, even in the winter.

I’m traveling alone (my husband was not up for such a long airplane ride) and wanted to make sure I could navigate the trip as easily as possible, so I worked hard to pack light. The last time I bought a suitcase was about 2011, so I treated myself to a new, lighter carry-on roller bag with spinny wheels that roll smoothly. (I bought this Calpack Hue suitcase at The Container Store!) I also bought some Calpack compression packing cubes so I was able fit all my clothes (including pajamas and robe) into the two cubes on one side of the suitcase. My shoes and toiletries went on the other side. (The suitcase has two equal-sized compartments.)

I wear merino wool 365 days a year, which is great for travel. Every garment I packed was merino wool, which is lightweight, warm, breathable and odor resistant. For the long flights, I’m wearing wool joggers and t-shirt and sweatshirt and I packed three dresses, a cardigan, leggings, boots and a couple of scarves. (I packed a non-wool sun hat too.) This is probably actually more than I need, but it will give me a little variety.

I started by making a list of what I wanted to bring and then I started crossing off those things that weren’t absolutely necessary. After I started packing, I realized I needed to cut back more. Using the carry-on suitcase as my space limit made it easy to edit down what I took.

I’m writing this in Los Angeles, where I arrived last night. I’ll be leaving for Australia close to midnight tonight. I’ll report back on whether I wore everything I brought or if there were things I’d edited from my suitcase that I wish I had packed. I’m excited that I was able to get everything into a carry-on!

Freedom from the burden of stuff

4 July 2023

Happy Independence Day to my U.S. readers!

18 years ago this month, I started Peace of Mind Organizing®. My team and I have worked with hundreds of clients. And this simple truth continues to be reinforced with each one of them. Less stuff really does equal more freedom.

Photo by Leon Wu on Unsplash

Worth repeating (once again): Working with a professional organizer

26 June 2023

Way back in 2011, I wrote a post aimed at helping readers make the most of working with a professional organizer. I asked other professional organizers to comment, which made the post even more valuable. I just re-read it and I’m thrilled that a dozen years later it’s still valuable. So I’m running it once again. To get the maximum benefit, I encourage you to go back to the original post and read those comments—my colleagues added some great insight. And please feel free to add to the comments on that original post!

If you’re reading an organizing blog, chances are pretty good that you fall into one of three camps:

• You’re a professional organizer (or an aspiring one)
• You’d like to work with a professional organizer
• You’re a fairly organized DIYer looking for ideas

This post is for those of you who fall into the second category. If you’d like to work with a professional organizer, I’d love to provide you with some advice to optimize that experience, should it come to pass.

Choosing an organizer

• Check out your choices thoroughly. You can find professional organizers at the website of National Association of Productivity and Organizing Professionals and the Institute for Challenging Disorganization. If you’re in St. Louis, you can go to the NAPO-St. Louis website to see all the chapter members. (If you’re not in St. Louis, you can check here to see a list of NAPO chapters and their websites.) Choose some local organizers and read websites, look at testimonials and before and after pictures. Call any organizers you’re interested in who don’t have websites.
• Ask around. If you know folks who have worked with organizers, quiz them on their experience
• Know what you’re looking for. Do you want an organizer who tells you what to do (some people do)? Or one who involves you in the process of coming up with solutions?
• Trust your gut. If an organizer’s website or telephone manner resonates with you, that’s a good reason to pick her (or him).
• Don’t bargain shop. This is a field where fees are usually commensurate with training and experience. If you’re challenged by chronic disorganization, for example, you’d be wise to select an organizer with training and experience in working with chronically disorganized clients. And you may well pay more for that.

Working with an organizer

• Resist the temptation to clean up for your organizer. If your home is messy, you may feel embarrassed. Try to set that aside so that the organizer can see the natural state of your home in order to help you best. Mess and piles can provide clues.
• Be honest. Try not to anticipate what the organizer wants to hear. Instead, just answer all questions honestly, even if you’re a little embarrassed. Your organizer can help you best if you’re honest in everything you tell her.
• Be realistic. How long have you been dealing with disorder in your life? Probably quite some time. Unfortunately, organizers don’t have magic wands, so we can’t fix things instantly. Recognize that this is a process that might take awhile.
• Be prepared to learn new behaviors. If you’re dealing with a lot of clutter, the first step might be decluttering. But after that, you’re more than likely going to need to change your habits and create new routines to ensure that the clutter doesn’t come back. If you don’t change your behavior, the order that you and your organizer create might be temporary.
• Do your homework. If you and your organizer agree that you’ll do homework, try to accomplish it. If you don’t, it may not be a big deal. But being honest and realistic about the prospect of what you can accomplish between appointments can help your organizer better plan the next session.
• Trust your gut (again). If you’re not clicking with your organizer, don’t be afraid to talk with her about it. This is intimate work and it’s essential that you have a trusting relationship and work well together. If you don’t feel it’s working with the organizer, perhaps the two of you can come up with a solution. If no solution is in sight, perhaps you can ask her for a referral.
• Keep your appointments. If you book an appointment with an organizer, try to keep that commitment. She’s set aside time for you and scheduled around that appointment. Last-minute cancellations can be costly for the organizer. And they’re costly for you, too, since you can’t get help if you don’t keep appointments.
• Expect backsliding. Most clients experience some backsliding, when life gets in the way and newly learned behaviors fall by the wayside. If you backslide, it doesn’t mean you’ve failed or your organizer isn’t effective. It just means you need to renew your efforts. Or perhaps tweak our systems.
• Be brave. It can be scary to let someone into your house for the first time in ages. It can also be scary to admit to your organizer that you haven’t done your homework or that you’ve not been able to maintain the order you created together. But organizers, by and large, are compassionate and non-judgmental people. Getting past the fear can help put you on the path to an orderly life.

When you hire a professional organizer, you’re making a time and financial commitment to getting organized. Often, you’re making an emotional commitment as well. That can be very powerful! Together, you and your organizer can make a huge impact in your life.

I'm on a list of 50 Best Decluttering Blogs

22 June 2023

I was delighted to receive an email telling me that this blog made the list of 50 Best Decluttering Websites and Blogs as identified by the website Feedspot. Imagine my delight when I clicked on the link and saw that I’m listed as #4 on the list! I did a little looking around on Feedspot and saw that the Peace of Mind Organizing blog is also on their list of 100 Best Organizing Blogs and Websites. I’m #17 there.

If you love reading organizing and decluttering blogs—and I’m guessing you do because you read this blog—I urge you to check out both these lists. Maybe you’ll find some new-to-you blogs to explore. Or, if you’re like me, your memory will be refreshed by seeing some blogs that fell off your radar.

I’ve been writing this blog since 2006 and it’s fun to receive this recognition!